Edits since March 30th 2020 are in this color.
At the time I wrote this, I had not yet been mentored or trained by Dr. John Grinder. I must say, JG’s demonstration’s are leagues apart. And if you have the opportunity to witness them, you will find, how so much immediate and long term change and creation of choice can be stacked in a short conversations both for a person to consciously learn, appreciate and relate while making deep internal shifts in the unconscious processes.
If I had to re-write this article, I may not be using these exact choice of analogies :)
NLP is simpler to be described as Surgery of Thought Process.
It is just as much a surgery because you are breaking into someone else established patterns at the neuro chemical level and carving a new path!
Well but what is surprising is you can do it conversationally and people do it all the time without realizing it.
Just for a moment jump into the fantasy world of Star Trek. You can transport someone – when a Ship is stationed, when it is at impulse speed and at warp speed.
Now any trekkie would know that it is easy to do transportation at orbit or at impulse speed but a select few can transport at warp speed.
The question to the practitioners – Do you want to do your work only using Hypnosis or a semi focussed session without hypnosis. I think the real skill is to do it when the mind is jumping between thoughts like in warp speed faster than light!
We all have seen Bandler do it . Some live and some in videos. The point I am trying to make is that first it is possible to get any specific result without having to use formal hypnosis as long as you are quick enough. Well this is already documented in the famous book by Bandler and Grinder on Traceformations.
What I am more interested in brining to attention is that we are all neuro surgeons at warp speed. Which means you are altering peoples thought patterns some permanent some momentary – You want it or not – The question is how purposeful do you want to be?
Especially if you are trained on NLP by any worthy book or seminar. You are already always influencing people at the Neurological level even outside your awareness. The question really is how much of the influence are you happy about? Or in the first place even aware of.
Lastly, to those who take the initiative to make purposeful neurological changes conversationally. Keep this in mind, more specifically if you are a practitioner – Every time Bandler finishes with someone the person is glowing like a lit candle! You don’t have to squint your eyes to notice the change. It is right there. And also Bandler tests his work even when it is done conversationally.
In the past few months I have some observations and learnings on this. But to summarize I would say the pre requisite for impacting conversationally with NLP is
- State Elicitation (Humour, Creativity, Provocation, Confusion – all this can help – depending on your style)
- Speed (For – Elicitation, Anchoring, Unconscious Suggestions)
- Precision (Many tactics – 1 Outcome – Strategy Elicitation using TOTE – Test Operate Test Exit)
- Repetition(In different states, different contexts, creativity can come a long way to make repetition interesting)
- Rapport(Ofcourse :) )
To all those staring out – don’t be fooled – NLP is a lot of practice.
Example of NLP instructions go as follows
1) Establish Rapport
2) Elicit Desired State
This is the equivalent of telling a surgeon
1) Open the Stomach
2) Remove the stone
Well it is easier said! But everyone knows that for a surgeon to do the above requires a lot of precision and a steady state of mind.
NLP is no different.
So how do you learn?
Simple – By making the world your practice ground!
Even when you are not actively practicing. Notice!
All the patterns of NLP are out there. You can notice it in every conversation.
Start noticing patterns, observe interactions between people, notice the dynamics.